Saturday, March 29, 2014

The 5 Biggest Lessons I've Learned in the Past 5 Years

 Some of the most wonderful and most terrible things that have ever happened to me have been in the past 60 months. In some seasons of life you float along and in other seasons you explode with change. It has been intense to say the least. It has been scary, exciting, and pulsating with potential. It has also been productive. Enlightening. Empowering. Here's what I've learned.

Things happen when you are ready.  Some of the good things that have happened I wouldn't have fully appreciated if they had happened sooner. And the worst thing, I would have just been so ill equipped to handle. We sometimes think that if we'd known things sooner some pain might have been averted. In reality, a spirit and mind that haven't come into their own yet would not recover as well or as fully. Everyone wants their big opportunity right now. The universe knows that you aren't ready yet. Keep learning and growing. At the exact moment you are prepared change will come. Be warned: things may get worse before they get better. Embrace that lesson. Keep reading, learning, and thinking on your way to success.

People come into your life when you need them.  Unbelievably so. I wouldn't have made it through without someone I met completely by chance, who introduced a different perspective that was going to be invaluable to me on the hardest days. And a new small group of friends who acted as a support group also appeared out of nowhere just in time. These people came into my life long enough before the bottom fell out for me to know I could trust them with every confidence in the dark moments.

The truth really does set you free. You won't like it. I can just about promise you that. Not at first anyway. Your mind may refuse to accept whatever is happening. The quicker you can move past denial, face reality, and formulate a plan of action, the better off you'll be. In my case, the truth set several people free and changed everything for the better. The problem is that you are pretty sure the initial exposure is going to kill you. Trust me, it won't. You are going to need to speak your own truth too, which is terrifying and liberating.  Being free means saying to the world, "this is who I am."

You should trust your intuition. I can't even begin to explain how I know some things. In Blink, Malcolm Gladwell explains that out brains are constantly putting together clues that our conscious mind doesn't even recognize are there. If you feel like something is very wrong, especially if it isn't normal for you to be worried or upset, go with that. There's likely something there.  On the positive side, if you have a feeling something or someone is going to be important later, then nurture that and don't let it (or them) slip away.

You are going to be okay, no matter what happens. You'll make mistakes. You'll be wrong. You'll be amazing, lucky, strong (wasn't going for the rhyme, maybe after this I'll write a bad country song). When you fail you'll learn something. When you win you'll learn. When you don't think you can keep going, you will and you'll learn how powerful you are when you have to be. It isn't ever going to be perfect. But you can take all the good and bad and get better every day.

That constant growing and traveling forward on the path to the wiser, better you is the point, after all.

What have you learned in the last 5 years?


  1. I really like this! Super encouraging!! :)

  2. Thanks! Perspective and perception give things context and meaning. :)

  3. Great post. I agree 100 percent. What you said. Thanks.

    1. Thanks so much for reading and taking time to comment, Terri. On the dark days people need to know that it will get better. But I know from experience that it is so hard to believe and feel that at the time.